People Turn to Internet to Find Co-Parents


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People Turn to Internet to Find Co-Parents

By Jennifer Griswold. CREATED Feb 26, 2014

Omaha, NE -  An Omaha woman says she was unlucky in love but still wanted to have a family. When she was in her early 40s, she turned to the internet to find someone she could have a child with and someone who wanted to co-parent that child with her. 

Dawn Pieke found Fabian Blue on a Facebook site. Blue, who now lives in New York, was living in Australia when he met Pieke. He says they hit it off right away. They spent months getting to know each other. 

They are not in a relationship. They are not married, but they decided they wanted to have a child together. 

Pieke said, "When I met Fabian, we asked each other a thousand and one questions about how we'd want to raise kids, our spiritual beliefs, our parenting styles."

They decided to conceive a child through artificial insemination. Blue moved to Omaha during Pieke's pregnancy, and they had a baby girl named Indigo. 

"It's really risky, but in life, you have to take those chances," Blue said. 

More and more people are taking similar chances and turning to web sites like Modamily and Family by Design to help find co-parents. 

Darren Spedale runs one of the sites and says thousands are signed on. "There's clearly interest in thinking about new ways of parenting that people haven't thought about before."

Still some experts say co-parents who don't know each other may not know what they're in for. Family therapist Tammy Gold says, "Parenting is hard enough as it is and then having all of these other challenges of having people who may not know each other very well or aren't going to be together during all the tough times could pose some challenges."

Pieke and Blue plan to be back in the same city again soon. Until then, they Skype nearly everyday and keep in constant communication. They are proud of their family and committed to it. "Making sure she grows up in a happy, loving home, that's our whole intention," Pieke said. 

Pieke says they did background and health checks on each other. 

Experts say if you're going to enter into an agreement like this, you should have a legal document that spells out everything.